He Doesn't REALLY Want the Perfect Woman

How much time do you spend trying to be the kind of woman you think men want?

If you're like most women, it's a LOT. You spend all this time making yourself look sexy and attractive.

All this time presenting yourself as fun, interesting, worldly, and not needy in the slightest.

You spend all this time showing him just how good you'd be for him... How amazing his future would be if he chose you as the woman by his side...

And it doesn't work. It never works. WHY? Why do you work so hard...

And the guy in your life just takes you for granted, if he even notices you at all?

It's probably because he's immature, right?

He can't recognize a good thing until it's gone. Or maybe... It's because you've been doing all the work for him.

It's Not Just You—ALL Women Experience This (That's Why They Ask for Help)

Many women give up on love. They never let themselves get too close to a man, for fear of scaring him off.

But other women try a different approach. They get help.

Relationship coach James Bauer is one of the people they turn to.

He noticed that many clients were coming to him, complaining about guys who were blowing hot and cold.

Everything would be going great, and then it was like...

Something would change overnight.

A guy who'd been warm, affectionate, and interested would suddenly become distant.

He'd no longer have any time for her.

He wouldn't smile in greeting. He'd stop making eye contact. His kisses were brusque.

Wanting to help his clients, James investigated.

And what he discovered made sense of everything. He knew why these men were backing away. He knew what they needed ... and what they weren't getting.

It didn't come down to anything wrong with these women.

Rather, it all came down to something he called "The Hero Instinct."

Give Him A Worthy Challenge

Circumstances don't call for them to rip off their corporate ties and spring into action, revealing their superman side. Maybe they can't save the world. But they can still get the girl.

Getting the girl is a worthy challenge for an ordinary guy with the heart of a superhero. It takes superhuman confidence. Superhuman charm. Superhuman immunity to pain. Now, all he needs to find is...

A girl who needs a hero. Do You Need a Hero? Let me guess... That's not you.

You're strong. You're independent.

You can fix a leaky faucet. You can drive a stick shift. You can take care of yourself.

You're never going to make that Jerry Maguire mistake of looking for a man to complete you.

Instead, you have a lot to offer a man. You're generous. Kind. Loving. Giving to a fault. All you want is to find a man who's willing to receive all you have to give.

And that's why heroes aren't showing up in your life. That's why you've ended up with so many takers instead.

Guys who take everything you have and leave you high and dry. If you want a hero, then you need to advertise for one. Here's how.

2. Take pleasure in male company.

Guys love women who appreciate men for just being men.

So what if his apartment is a shrine to sports? So what if he spends hours on his fantasy football team? So what if his idea of a clean shirt is the one with the fewest wrinkles?

He's a guy. It's okay. You don't need him to be more like you, because you've got the feminine side of the gender equation covered.

3. Let him earn your respect.

Superheroes love challenges. They don't want to be given a gold medal just for showing up. They don't want your love handed to them on a plate. They want to earn it.

There's one thing they crave even more than a woman's eternal enduring love: A challenge.

So give him opportunities to prove himself. You don't have to do the work of winning him over.

Sit back, relax, and allow him the pleasure of winning your admiration.